glenny boy 3:36 Mon Mar 9
Ever managed to get someone back after they have ended the relationship
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Serious question all. My girlfriend of one year finished with me as she saw that long term we weren't progressing due to my inability to move along with the relationship. What was stopping me was rushing and making sure that whatever I did, would be fine with my children and that they would be happy.
I now know that I should have moved quicker, I was trying to be a good dad, and that kids are more resilient.
I tried to convince her one week on, but she was standing by her decision.
So has anyone managed to convince a partner that they should get back?
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worm
3:36 Mon Mar 9
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Move on, Glenn
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SecondOpinion
3:42 Mon Mar 9
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100 helpful replies by tea time
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ooooh Morley Morley
3:53 Mon Mar 9
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Sorry to hear that GLEN SON.
Send me her name, address and most importantly a picture and i'll go round and put a good word in for you.
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Pancho
3:54 Mon Mar 9
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"word"...
Yeah. That's what you'll put in her.
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i-Ron
3:55 Mon Mar 9
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Move on. Don't look back. Best advice I was given!
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bobbymoore
4:03 Mon Mar 9
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If you ever what to make the "changeover" then come and see me on a Thursday and I'll give you my 3" sausage.
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cholo
4:08 Mon Mar 9
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As said already, move on, pining for someone who's not interested is the pits. She ain't coming back.
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Sarah Ballpalsy
4:09 Mon Mar 9
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Most of the advice people will give you is to 'move on'.
Sadly, you don't want to hear that advice as your feelings are still raw. However the reason that most people give you that advice is because it is the correct thing to do.
Correct for two reasons:
1) It could save you months if not years of pining for something that will never happen.
2) You are at your most attractive to a woman when you are confident, succeeding and happy - desepration is a big no no.
Basically, if you want her back you need to move on, but properly move on and be prepared not to get her back.
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Pancho
4:12 Mon Mar 9
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Sarah Ballpalsy!!!
HAHA that is a fucking genius username...
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lab
4:14 Mon Mar 9
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S.B 4:09
Spot on.
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Spandex Sidney
4:27 Mon Mar 9
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LINK!
Especially if she is back on the market. Silver lining and all that?
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The Kronic
4:40 Mon Mar 9
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I've been in this conundrum. An ex asked me to move in with her and I point blank refused. I regretted it after she dumped me but NOTHING was going to change her mind.
In fact you've more chance of winning the lottery than winning back a woman scorned.
Once you accept that, you'll soon be nuts deep inside the next tidy bint and wondering why you ever gave a toss about your ex.
Unless you're a mundane ugly cunt.
HTH
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Monk~koknee
4:57 Mon Mar 9
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I think this is the plot of every romantic comedy film. What Hugh Grant would do in this situation is confront her at some public event with an impassioned speech about love and kids. Everyone in attendance will applaud and you will live happily to the end of the credits.
Alternatively, pursue her to the nearest airport and bang furiously on the glass at departures just after you have missed her boarding. Just after the plane has taken off you will find her wandering back through the gate forlornly.
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Zammo
5:05 Mon Mar 9
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Had the same problem with my ex.
Let me make this clear to you sunbeam......
Your children are the priority, to be brutally honest she isn't worth it if she cant see that. Or in my case she is banging someone else?
Do not sit at home mopping around, get out there, you are better than.
Next buddy, next!
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holyhandgrenade
5:13 Mon Mar 9
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Can understand the emotions and current pain glenny. A very old cliche although time is a great healer.
Take some time out, do something very different that you have always wanted to do, then build some new routines into your life. You won't forget her immediately although the new things will occupy you for a while. Think of it as temporary pain relief while you deal with the longer term.
Oh and well done on sticking by your kids. You might have dodged a real bullet here longer term if she didn't understand your kids aspect.
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stoneman
5:17 Mon Mar 9
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Its no loss mate, she wasn't all that.
But she does make a cracking breakfast.
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Joke Whole
5:21 Mon Mar 9
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Rebrand her.
She's no longer your wife or partner, she's now just another woman who happens to also be the mother of your kids.
You can't live on happier past times - they're gone forever; it's a bit like those saddos on here who are obsessed with bringing a player back to the club who moved on ages ago and had his sparkling career elsewhere. His better times were never going to be with us and they won't suddenly come back should he sign.
As has been said, keep the best interests of your kids as your number one priority - the focus of your life: taking another partner should never be seen as a betrayal and they won't view it that way, even if they often say you and their mother should get back together. They, too, are seeking to recreate the comfort of the nest and you can easily provide a suitable, if not identical replacement.
As for rekindling your relationship? Up yo you, but she'll always, and I mean ALWAYS, be the one in charge of the partnership and you'll always be the follower.
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cup of tea
5:23 Mon Mar 9
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Stupidly went back with the same bird after splitting up twice before - from experience, it fdoes not work, you split for a reason (plus the fact she is probably getting cock elsewhere)
I just went out when I split from a 5 year relationship, got pissed up and shagged a random from Romford who I ended up seeing for around 6 months before she fucked off to live in Shrewsbury!
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stoneman
5:25 Mon Mar 9
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She moved from Romford to Shrewsbury to escape you?
Fuck me she must have been desperate to want to move there!
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cup of tea
5:26 Mon Mar 9
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Probably!
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